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I’d like to introduce you to Karen today.  Karen is a beautiful mama to a very handsome boy named Caleb.  I’ve been able to follow Caleb’s journey as he competes in the Special Olympics, travels to be part of DSA Programs, and overall as he just lives his life as a pre-teen boy 🙂  I love that I’ve been able to connect with Karen because she has been able to advise me when it comes to these rough toddler years Jana is going through.  Part of our DS community is learning from others and passing that knowledge down.  So I’m happy to give you the chance to meet Caleb 🙂

Looking back, and looking ahead….

caleb6Raising Caleb has been quite a journey so far. We were/are “older” parents to begin with, so…that. And he’s got a ton of energy, so….that! We didn’t exactly plan to have Caleb, 17 years after his sister, but I honestly believe he was sent to us for a reason. Those first days and weeks were filled with lots of emotion – joy, sadness, confusion, anger, concern, but most of all, love. We loved him from the first, but realized that raising him would be more difficult than raising a typical child. I say that not because we loved him any less. But because we know the world still has a long way to go to be an inclusive environment for our kids with disabilities –whatever they might be.

Those first days of his life would also be filled with doctor’s appointments, and therapy visits. We settled into our routine, and wondered if this would be our new normal forever (It isn’t). Later on, Caleb headed off to preschool, and mom-playgroups turned caleb4into playdates with friends. He happened to be one of two children with Down syndrome at our church preschool. Both of them were included in everything. We worked hard on developing communication skills to make that easier. Big-kid school came, and therapies were done in during the day, which made it a bit easier for mom.

Fast-forward to today. Some days, I have a hard time believing our little guy is already ten. 10 is a funny age. Halfway between toddlerhood and adulthood. Caleb’s on the cusp of puberty, and I have my fingers crossed that going through that with a boy will be a little easier than it was the first time J Jana asked me to share what our typical day looks like. It brought me back to a time when Caleb was little; being fascinated with the one lone mom who stayed in our BabyCenter Down Syndrome group. Her son was older, maybe even ten years old. What was their life like? Was it really #morealikethandifferent ?

caleb1For us, the answer is yes, and no. We still struggle with communication most days, and fine-motor skills. (Fingers crossed to work on shoe-tying and other independent skills over the summer). We work more on planning for his financial future than we did our daughter, making sure he had a Special Needs Trust, and now, an ABLE account. We have a binder with his medical life – specialists and insurance information – for easy access. We think about his future, and what that might look like – employment, government assistance, living situation, love life! We help him to understand the importance of good social skills as he gets older. We pray that he doesn’t have many encounters with bullies or overhear disparaging remarks.

caleb8However! Caleb leads a full and active life, filled with friends, sports, school, and community events (see my IG to see all he does!). We are thankful that even though he has a few health concerns (open VSD and hypothyroidism), overall, he’s a healthy kid who loves to do things and meet people. He loves to travel, and we’ve been some pretty cool places. He loves his family, most especially his niece Evelyn. He loves to help around the house, but could care less about showering (!). He likes movies and TV shows and books; trains and cars and nerf guns. We like to do things as a family, no matter how seemingly mundane. He loves his daddy – loves to do things with him.

If I had to pick just one word to caleb3describe Caleb, I think I would choose “Excited!” because he is! He’s shown us how to live life to the fullest, and what it means to enjoy every moment we can. He shows us what unconditional love looks like, and what true friendship is. 10 years into our journey…we’ve learned a lot. But there is still so much to learn from this little guy. So, my advice to you, looking back, is to learn all you can from your child with Down syndrome. Give them the tools they need to fly. Because the world IS changing. There are so many opportunities for our kids today. The world still has a long way to go to be totally inclusive, but I think we are heading in the right direction. Be ready for poss-ABILITIES!caleb2

Peace,

Karen

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