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Guest Mama – Meet Olivia

I am honored to introduce you to Marina.  She is a beautiful mama with the most gorgeous girl named Olivia.  Olivia is so full of life, happiness and strength.  I’ve loved watching her grow through her mama’s Instagram feed.  She comes from an amazing family and I am so glad to share just a small bit of who she is with you!  Btw…this post made me break down in tears…so good luck IMG_20170303_201003_387🙂

I love her. I love her so much. When I look at her I speak my thoughts out loud. I tell her how beautiful she is. I squeal when I can hardly stand how cute she is. I’ll scoop her up and squeeze her and smother her in kisses. I swear that her sweet baby smell still releases endorphins in my brain. I think she’s so amazing and so beautiful and so utterly wonderful. This is what I think and feel everyday that I’m with her. And when she’s sleeping or I’m away from her, I miss her and that is what I think about.

IMG_20170302_094606_347Sometimes when I take her places I’ll notice people staring. In that moment I can’t help but imagine what they see. Her little bald head, no eyebrows, no eyelashes. Her little ears, the way they curl in, one more than the other. Her almond eyes. The way they turn up as if an artist over exaggerated their slant. Her teeth, the way they are more crooked than most toddlers. Her tongue, the way it tends to peek out of her mouth more often than not. For a millisecond I can see what they see and my heart feels heavy and beats like thunder. They see ‘imperfection’. They see a child that not only looks different because of Down syndrome but appears to be ill because she has no hair from the Alopecia. It’s a double whammy. In those moments I want to scoop her up and run. I want to turn and yell “Don’t stare at my baby!!!” But I don’t. I manage to control myself and steady my hands and my heart. I manage to adjust my eyes too. Then when that moment passes, when they walk away or better yet, smile, then I can see her again. I can see her clearly. I can see what God sees. My perfect girl. I see her beautiful round head that smells so good. I see her beautiful eyes that twinkle and dance when she smiles. I see her rosy cheeks that are soft and sweet. I see her tiny rosebud mouth and her gorgeous smile. I see her adorable ears that are so kissable and work so perfectly. I see her delicate and doll like button nose. I can see her satiny smooth skin and how perfectly pink it is. Then she takes my breath IMG_20170221_211618_978away.

How could I possibly be so fortunate to be her mommy? What good things have I done to deserve her? She brings us so much joy. She makes us laugh everyday. She makes us do and say a thousand ridiculous things because we’re all so crazy about her. We take such pride in every new word she speaks and in every accomplishment no matter how.small. When she carries her baby doll and kisses it, I want to cry at how tender she is. When she wraps her tiny arms around my neck and presses her soft cheek against mine, I’m sure this must be heaven. My daughter is smart, my daughter is beautiful, my daughter is kind and funny. My daughter loves music. My daughter loves animals and coloring. My daughter loves exploring. My daughter loves popcorn and going to the beach. My daughter loves long car rides and reading books together. My daughter rocks a hair bow like no other. Most importantly, my daughter loves people. My daughter will IMG_20170218_094816_315smile the sweetest smile at the biggest, ugliest, grumpiest, smelliest, foulest person she meets and she will exude genuine love and acceptance with every ounce of her being. My daughter is a blessing and my daughter is way more perfect than I could ever wish her to be.

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Guest Mama – Bridget’s Story

This week I’d like to introduce you to Megan!  She has the most adorable baby girl who is getting stronger and stronger each day!  I am so glad she was willing to share her story with all of you!

img_5006Our precious girl, Bridget Regan, was born December 5, 2016, but her story began long before that. I was just out of my first trimester when on June 30, 2016, I got a call that would forever change my life. I opted to have NIPT (non-invasive prenatal testing) for no other reason than the test was 100% covered by our insurance. I can promise you that had this test not been covered (it can be quite expensive), I would not have had it done. Without giving it much thought, I figured the test would completely rule me out as a carrier for any kind of disorder or disease; I literally never gave it a thought that my baby may come back with an abnormal test result. Early that June morning, I got the call from my OB that my NIPT testing had come back as high risk for Down syndrome. Even with this news I figured, “oh ok, but what does ‘high risk’ really mean? And I’m sure these test results have false positives all the time…” As the news started to sink in, I scoured the internet for stories of false positives. There were a few, but I quickly realized that the new NIPT testing was far more accurate than the Quad screens of days past. A knot grew in my stomach and in my throat as the reality of what I may be facing quickly hit me like a brick wall. My OB scheduled an appointment for me at a Maternal Fetal clinic to do a full body scan that day.

img_5011I remember the feel of the leather of the couch in the genetic counselor’s office. I remember what she wore, what I wore, the art on the wall, the carpet underneath my shuffling feet, the path down the hall we walked as I felt the tunnel vision closing in on what she was about to tell us. Our baby had a 91% chance of having Down syndrome. She asked us a myriad of questions that no new parent wants to face – did we know anyone with Down syndrome, any history in our families of genetic disorders, and finally the very worst of all – how would we proceed with this pregnancy. Until that question came, I wasn’t listening to all the words she was saying. It’s like I could see the words coming out of her mouth but my heart was in a tailspin of emotion and my mind was trying to catch up with my heart. What did she mean what would we do? This was our precious baby and though the news was heavier than I could have ever imagined, there was no “option” for us. This life was ours to raise and protect to the best of our abilities and not to be discarded based on a preconceived notion of a diagnosis. Our baby is more than worthy.img_5002

Following that conversation, we had a full body scan ultrasound where a heart condition was discovered that all but confirmed the diagnosis. Then a brand new fear crept in as they explained that our baby’s condition was so severe that it would require surgery within six months of life. We’ve been closely followed by cardiology teams since then and Regan is expected to have surgery sometime in March.

Our sweet Regan has now been in our lives for exactly two months and suddenly I couldn’t imagine a world without her. She is gaining weight like a champ and her sweet disposition makes me so proud to call her mine.

img_5050Throughout this journey, I’ve had the pleasure of following other mommas and families of these precious children with Down syndrome. What started as a scary diagnosis opened a window into some of the most supportive and compassionate people I’ve (virtually) met. These first few months with Regan have been such a joy but certainly not without their difficulties. I imagine Regan’s future will be the same: filled with happiness and some stumbling blocks, but I can’t wait to see what it holds for us. The fear of the unknown is washed away when I look into her precious blue eyes and know she’s already changed my heart forever, and I know she’ll change the rest of the world’s hearts too.

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Guest Mama – Mikey’s Story

I’d like to introduce you to Laura.  She is a beautiful mama I have had the honor to befriend through our Instagram Community.  Her little boy Mikey is just a few months older than Jana and is the cutesiest thing 🙂  I’ve asked her to share her story with all of you.  I hope to feature a new mama every week or so.  I’m so proud of the DS community friendships I’ve developed and know that these mama’s have a lot to share!! pics-from-jakes-phone-058

I found out I was pregnant with Mikey in the beginning of July, 2014. My husband and I were excited! We already had names picked out for either gender. My Dr offered to do genetic testing, but I declined it. We had a twenty week scan to find out the gender of our first baby. Our fingers were crossed for a boy. We really wanted our first baby to be a boy. The tech put the results in an envelope. We found out our baby was a boy a few days later at a gender reveal party. We were so excited!!!

We went to the birthing center on March 28, 2015 to have our baby boy. I was so nervous and excited! 17 hours later at 11:59 pm, Michael James Snyder entered the world! I was so happy and exhausted. All I could do was stare at him! He was perfect and he looked exactly like his daddy!
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The next morning the pediatrician came in to do an examination on him. When she completed the exam, she told us that Michael had Down Syndrome. She didn’t offer any information or assign us a social worker. She just walked out. I put on a pretty brave face, but I felt shattered. My husband was solid as a rock, but I was a hot mess! It wasn’t because he had a disability, I was just very scared. I didn’t know what to expect. I had no idea that what terrified me at the moment would turn out to be the biggest blessing and our greatest adventure!

Michael has some developmental delays and some health issues, but he has a wonderful team of doctors and therapists that help us to help him reach his goals. Those are things we do to help keep him healthy and to reach his full potential. img_4575

Michael is such a pure joy to be around! He has shown us what true love is. He has such determination and grit! He works hard every day to do things that his other baby friends can do without a problem, but he always does it with a smile on his face! He’s taught us so much.

We recently had another baby. Michael adores his new baby sister! He showers her with hugs and kisses, brings her a toy or her binky when she’s sad, and steals her formula if I set it down where he can get it. He tries to crawl in her swing or bouncer with her to cuddle, then he’ll steal her blanket when I’m not looking. They smile at each other one minute, then make each other cry the next. He’s a typical big brother. I can see already that they will have a strong bond. I can also see them getting into a lot of trouble together. Hey, someone has to keep mamma on her toes, right?
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There are many days that go by that I wonder “What if?” What if I would have known about his diagnosis before he was born? What if I would have known what I know now after he was born and we received his diagnosis? Would I still have spent the first few months crying at some point each day? Would I have been so afraid? Honestly, I don’t know. I believe that God does everything for a reason. I can’t go back and wonder “What if?” When I know that through all of this we have become stronger. My relationship with my husband is stronger, my relationship with God is stronger and I’ve developed amazing friendships with so many families in the Down Syndrome community.
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I think the most important thing I would tell any parent that has received a Down Syndrome diagnosis is: Process those emotions and don’t feel guilty about it. It’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to be scared. It’s even okay to be a little angry. At some point all of those powerful and overwhelming emotions will turn into an incredibly strong love for your child. Support, encourage and nurture your baby! It takes a special person to raise such a unique individual! Sit back, relax and enjoy the ride!