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Uncomfortable

This morning I took Jana to our local library story time.  There were about 1-13 other little ones ranging from 1-5 years old.  It was her first time attending so it was a lot of new things to experience and see.  Also, she was the only child with special needs there. IMG_9089

We arrived early and she got to “read” a few books and play with blocks while we waited.  The other kids seemed to know each other already so they all played together.  She sat near them and watched mostly.  When the teacher started the class they opened up with two songs and unfortunately for Jana, everyone clapped afterward.  (Remember, clapping throws her right into a meltdown!)  I was able to take her to the back of the room and calm her down.  We returned and listened to the teacher read Dr. Seuss.  After the story the teacher had the kids play with a parachute.  You remember this in school right, each kid holds part of the brightly colored parachute and the shake and lift it.  Jana LOVED it!  She giggled and got excited each time they raised it high over her head.  Then it was craft time, they made party hats in honor of Dr. Seuss…Jana didn’t really care about this.  But enjoyed sitting with her “cousin” (our good friends daughter) and watching the other kids.  Her favorite part of the event though was playing with a box of bright colored scarfs.  Something she’s done in IMG_9095therapy multiple times.  This is a great sensory game and honestly, just loads of fun 🙂  All in all I think Jana had fun. IMG_9107

So why did I title this Uncomfortable?  Well, as I was sitting there with all these families around, I noticed something, non of the other mamas asked me about Jana.  I never even got a “She’s so cute!” (Which btw I get constantly) I never got asked how she was.  It seemed like we never really even got acknowledged.  Now don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t a total loner here.  There were two families I knew and they were happy to see Jana there and the teacher asked me a ton of questions about her therapies.  But I just couldn’t shake the odd feeling I kept having.

At lunch I discussed this with my hubby.  I thought maybe I was looking into things too much or I was just uncomfortable.  His answer was “Most likely Peanut made them uncomfortable.  They didn’t know how to respond to her”  He reminded me, usually when we go to events like this, it is with her Infant & Toddler therapy program.  There are other kids with special needs around.  The parents are accepting of all kids who are “different.”  It’s usually a safe place.  Other than church, she doesn’t really have play time with “typical kids.”  Is this what we have to get used to?  Will my daughter just have to accept that at times she might not even get acknowledged because something she was born with makes others uncomfortable?  I think that’s kinda crappy!  She shouldn’t have miss out on things because others don’t know how to handle it.

I mean really!  Its 2017!!  We live in an age of IMG_9103information!  People all over the world are fighting for acceptance.  But yet, someone who is “different” than the norm makes people uncomfortable?!  Guess what people, if my daughter plays with your child, I promise, they will NOT catch Down Syndrome.  They will however, catch a friendship with a beautiful, intelligent, loving little girl.  They will learn that outer appearances are not what makes someone special, but what’s inside that does!  They will learn that God has a special plan for kids like Jana and they are lucky to be able to cross paths with kiddos just like her.  Parents please, I am asking you, don’t raise your children to be scared of kids who are different.  Teach them that differences make our world brighter and better.  You won’t regret opening their world…I promise.

 

 

 

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People Suck!!

So yesterday was Spread the Word to End the Word day.  A movement to remove the words retard/retarded from our society.  This was suppose to be a day of awareness and support for all these wonderful people who never deserve to be put down.  Just a day for the community to rally around these kids to help make the world safer and more accepting for them.  Sounds great right!?

Unfortunately, there are some mean, cruel, horrible people in our world!  A few families that I follow on Instagram posted beautiful photos of their children and asked others to help end the word.  These kids range from 1 year to 10 years old.  Beautiful little kids with amazing families that love and cherish them.  On these public posts, people actually used yesterday to attack these innocent kids!!  Leaving mean messages about how their kids were not beautiful, how we need to not worry about the r-word because that’s what they are and even some saying they should have been aborted!!  Thank God I didn’t receive any of these horrible comments.  (I would not have been a very good Christian if so!!)  But honestly, how can people be so horrible?!  This wasn’t just one or two people…tons of people purposelessly searched these families out to attack them.  We live in a so-called society of acceptance.  Everyone has to watch what they say.  Make sure they are politically correct and don’t offend anyone.  Yet, these innocent kids are put down by strangers!?  Where is their acceptance?!

This seriously upset me so much!!  How am I suppose to explain this one day to Jana?  When people are mean for no reason, where society would rather her be hidden away then accept her for all her beauty!?  It is just so ridiculous!  It really makes me have very little faith in people.  No child should ever feel that they are worthless and put down by adults.  No matter what their situation is!!  This has to stop!!

OK…my rant is done….   UGH!!